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Hmm...life

Dumped by text message last night.  Yeah, that was interesting.  Actually, it wasn't as bad as you'd think--it was followed up with me calling him for a five minute phone conversation where he gave his reasons, which I didn't see as a valid point, but then something pretty cool happened--I realized that it didn't matter.  Whether or not I agreed with his perspective on the whole thing, what matters what that, because of his perspective, he just wasn't that 'into' me, and the essence of it is that I don't want to be with someone who isn't that into me, for whatever reason.  So it's fine.  And it was way better than if he'd driven 2 hours and told me on Saturday afternoon, ruining the plans I could form for Saturday.  I went out last night and spent some time at my favorite bar, drinking vodka and reading Thomas Paine, and had dinner with Megan and Dan.  Went home, slept like a baby (vodka induced sleep is the sleep of the gods, I tell ya), woke up early this morning, and find myself amazingly fine with everything.

Hey, at the heart of it all, we're all completely alone anyway.  Why try to pretend otherwise?  Just be satisfied and content in yourself.

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pallid_regina
Mar. 13th, 2010 05:42 pm (UTC)
Dumped that way sucks. Seriously.

I did a year of celibacy in my 20s - I just opted OUT of that entire part of my life. It was a promise I made to myself to only date MYSELF for a whole year. At the end of that year I met Lance, and while I certainly wasn't in anything even vaguely like a perfect headspace, I WAS in the right headspace to know that he was a genuinely good match for me, not just Mr. Present At This Moment.

I wouldn't have known that if I hadn't spent time getting to know me and my own needs. Spending time making YOU the most important person in your life can be really useful and really valuable.
gypsykate1890
Mar. 15th, 2010 05:02 pm (UTC)
I'm not making any promises to myself, but I'm definitely in that mindset right now. I'm going to grad school in a year anyway--I don't need to complicate my life anymore.
mithluin
Mar. 13th, 2010 07:28 pm (UTC)
(((HUGS)))

I am not familiar with a good way to be dumped, but that certainly sounds like it sucked. At least...at least you know it's over, and...yeah, it's a two way street. Being into someone is no fun if they're not into you too.

I think all of life is learning to bridge the gaps between us, and yeah, we are all very, very alone in this world. It's scary when you think about it, but that much more heartwarming when you can find connections with people.

I know you're much stronger than you were a few years ago, and you will recover from this beautifully, but in the meantime, I offer you a hug as you deal with the fallout. You are a wonderful person.
gypsykate1890
Mar. 15th, 2010 05:03 pm (UTC)
thanks!!!
bonnie_halfelvn
Mar. 14th, 2010 01:23 am (UTC)
You have to be satisfied and content with yourself before you can give anything to a relationship anyway.

*hugs*
choclytgremlins
Mar. 14th, 2010 01:27 am (UTC)
I would hate to be dumped that way. Being dumped by letter was horrible enough. But what matters is that you're okay with it, and I'm glad things seem to be all right!

(Also, this is Mandy. I don't think I've commented here before.)
temperlj
Mar. 14th, 2010 01:28 pm (UTC)
Text?!! Yes, you are better off without him.
gypsykate1890
Mar. 15th, 2010 05:03 pm (UTC)
I happen to agree. :-)
fbhjr
Mar. 14th, 2010 02:39 pm (UTC)
"Just be satisfied and content in yourself."

That's good advice even outside of what was going on.
If you are happy with yourself and someone wants to share that, then great. But, if you're happy with yourself, you don't need someone to share it to make you happy.
mellymell
Mar. 14th, 2010 06:42 pm (UTC)
Wow, kind of a cowardly way to go about it (dumping by text, that is), but at least he answered your call and gave you his reasons. I guess if he had really been cowardly, he wouldn't have answered.

Way to have a great attitude about it though!
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